How to DIY Yourself a Coven

Okay, perhaps that title is a bit of a stretch. What can I say? I am prone to being hyperbolic.

Most of us are solitary witches. Some from choice, some from necessity. I, myself, am generally happy to be solitary. I can create my own rituals and don’t have to deal with any of the politics or lady drama of a typical coven. Particularly with me not being Wiccan, finding a “coven” was nearly impossible.

Or was it….?

It occurred to me some months ago that everyone meets their romantic partners online. So why couldn’t I meet my witch sisters online as well? The internet is full of wonderful resources for us witchy folks; blogs, hubs, hashtags and even Pinterest has some witch-tastic stuff on there. What there isn’t, however, is a Match.com type equivalent for meeting one’s soul sister. Hell, there’s not even a Tinder equivalent! I had tried in the past, with only one success story, to find other witches on Craigslist. Hey, don’t you judge me! That yielded mostly creepy guys looking for a kinky girl. GROSS! Or else I would up basically giving witchcraft one on one lessons via email. Suffice is to say it was disheartening and draining.

Then one day I thought about a website I’d visited in the past, but never really used. MeetUp.com.

So for $14.99 a month I set a witch’s group I named “We the Wild Women” (because that’s my personal hashtag for all things powerful woman related) and put out an open call to all local witches of any and all beliefs to gather in what I termed “an open circle”. And then I held my breath and refreshed my screen over and over for about an hour. It took no longer than a week for 50 women to join the group! I’ll be honest, it was overwhelming at first. What I did not know about MeetUp.com is that people join lots of groups and rarely interact with all of them. So thanks to that, I would up with about 15 women who truly were looking for community, too. witch circle

We held our first gathering on a Sunday morning in the park, under a beautiful canopy of trees. I made it a potluck because food can really lubricate social awkwardness and I’m already awkward enough. We sat and introduced ourselves, snacked, and basically tested out each other’s vibes. Now I’ll be honest, not everyone was a great fit. In fact, I made the choice to ask one Negative Nancy to not rejoin our group. That, my friends, was some drama. In fact, I think she tried to curse me, as a lot of shit went sideways in my word just after that. Not to worry, the (possible) hex has been broken and all is well again in my life. I mention this only because I think you have to be aware that meeting strangers is often weird & lonely people can often be a little crazy. Safety first!

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It’s now been about three months since our group first started. We have gotten together as a whole about three times, with our fourth coming up in a few days. We are not a coven. We are a circle of witches who gather together to support, share with and feel community with each other. There is no “leader”, no roles, no dogma. Just sisterhood. We are a varied group, I’ll tell you that. In fact, that is such a blessing; as I think we learn the most from people who we differ from.

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We gathered recently for Lammas, where we snacked and drank, laughed and meditated, and were lead by one of our sisters through a truly beautiful ritual. I am so grateful for this circle of real life witches to share with. It has been the thing most missing from my life. I had meditated and prayed for this to happen over the last year and now it has manifested. If you are feeling a lack of witchy community I wholeheartedly encourage you create your own. Websites and hashtags are wonderful, but nothing can compare to real life gathering (and that’s coming from an anxious introvert!).

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Which Type of Witch Are You?

Who doesn’t love to take little quizzes, right?

Nobody.

Because these suckers are always fun and sometimes (just sometimes) really do tell us a little about ourselves. Maybe it’s just me, but whenever I take one and I identify with the outcome, I feel…seen. If that makes sense. Maybe less alone in the world? I don’t know…I could be babbling here.

Anywho, we’ve made this little quiz for you to take. Honestly, it’s just a silly thing to do for fun. However, with that being said, we know a lot of you are new to your witchy life; you  might just find something here that resonates with you. If so, that’s wonderful! If not, hey, what can we say? At least it was fun, right?

And with that, Witches, let’s get to quizzing! Just click the link below.

http://uquiz.com/i44k3y

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Modern Witches. A Study in Photos, Part Two.

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I am so excited about today’s post, part two of our study of modern witches. Although the plan was to post these monthly, I fail epically at delayed gratification. So when Alison (oh, yeah, this is Alison everyone!) agreed to let me photograph her yesterday I knew already I’d be posting today. This project is so dear to my heart, and I do believe we are doing some small good here, too. Witches do not deserve the stigma, fear. and doubt (all depending on who’s doing the judging there) that we encounter. We are simply women who are connected to our own strength. Well, that and the myriad personal beliefs that make us each witches in our own way.

I’ll now step off the soapbox and we can focus on Alison.

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As it happens, Alison is a dear friend of mine. She is also, one of the more powerful witches I’ve met. I dare you to sit in a room with this woman and tell me you can not feel it radiating from her. She is also, as warm and wise as those eyes would lead you to believe.

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Bubble & Brew: What does the word “witch” mean to you?

Alison: “To my own ears and soul, the word “witch” is a recognition of a woman who has embraced her natural powers and all their consequences.”

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Bubble & Brew: When did you openly share your witch status?

Alison: ” I’ve never declared myself a witch, as I don’t use social media and rarely seek out others. Those close to me have always been aware, and I’ll proudly tell anyone who inquires.”

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Bubble & Brew: How did you know you were a witch?

Alison: ” A woman in a shopping mall called me a witch when I was a young child. My mother chased her off and told me it was a gift, not a curse, to be different.”

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Bubble & Brew: What, in your experience, in the biggest misconception about witches as a whole?

Alison: “As a grey witch, I accept mother nature’s cruelty and glory as they are. Witches can have ill intent or radiant generosity – both widely recognized concepts. People have accused me of both, and have been right.”

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Bubble & Brew: What is your center, spiritually speaking?

Alison: “The moon has ruled me since day one. Learning to love unconditionally for the first time (my partner), has made me a more centered lunatic.”

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Bubble & Brew: Use three words to describe yourself as a person

Alison: ” Sage, savage, and therefore paradoxical.”

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Thank you so much, Alison, for being part of this project. We are honored.

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coming out of the broom closet | a confession and affirmation

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Recently I felt compelled to out myself as a witch on instagram. In a way, I did it in a very safe and small way by announcing it on our own Bubble & Brew account.

Don’t get me wrong, I’ve made statements and have alluded to it before, but it was always under the guise of an aesthetic. Which I admit 100% I am drawn to the aesthetic, but there has always been something deeper as well.

Making my declaration on our instagram account seemed safe and small, because our following is still baby new and those that follow us are there because they have interest in what we are doing. It still seems too personal and strange of an announcement to post it on my own personal account as that account is is very much dedicated to body positivity and plus size fashion.

I guess I worry that I will alienate or push away people that are there for another reason. Which makes sense, I have straight up hightailed it out of an account I was considering to follow if it has any mention of Jesus in their bio. I think sometimes religion or spiritually should generally be a personal story that doesn’t need to be advertised to every passer by. Like, I can’t be the only one who violently rolls their eyes at soapbox evangelists or even gets straight up pissed off by them.

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But even still, I feel compelled to share my story. But I know there is a right time and a right place to do so and what better place than this safe haven we have created here, dedicated to us finding ourselves and accepting a truth we have long known. I would even like this to act as perhaps the first entry into a series of personal stories of “coming out of the broom closet” as Michelle so eloquently puts it.

I find it hard to believe I am the only person that feels self conscious about admitting myself as a witch. There are so many assumptions that go along with it that I do find I let myself worry about what those assumptions may be from any given person. But what I need to remember and hold dear to myself is how I feel about it.

And I have to admit, it feels right. It feels like I am finally embracing the compass that has been pulsating so hard in this direction, but I would continue to ignore it.

I am not a religious soul. I tried when I was a child, but it never fit. I tried atheism too, but it didn’t sit well either. In the end I settled on my own hodgepodge system of fantasy and imagination that seemed right to me, but I would never tell a soul, worried I’d be made fun of.

What Michelle and I have discussed is a sort of natural call to being a witch. No parameters or guidelines set in place we need to subscribe or adhere to. Just doing what feels natural.

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What is natural to me is my belief in energy, that it can manifest in many ways. I have a scientifically based mind and a mystical heart, which can be hard to resolve. I have referred to this as my  Mulder/Scully complex, I want to believe, but I also want tangible evidence to solidify my belief. When I let it all settle down to one thing both sides can agree on it’s energy.

I believe the energy, vibes and positive thoughts I put into creating something make it all that much better. I think it yields greater results. A non witch might just think it’s the power of positive thinking or being determined, but I am a little romantic and I as much as I agree upon those sentiments, I think it’s all a little magic in the making.

I think there is magic all around us, and it stands right before us, plan and simple. It shows itself to me in how foods pair together to make them sing, like mushrooms and garlic sauteed in butter. Or how lemon and ginger steeped with honey can make you feel better when you are sick. If you look at it through witch coloured glasses, isn’t that a simple potion for healing? That mix of ingredients placed together in order for you to heal and feel better, how is that not a witches brew?

And so goes my thinking for many everyday things that we glaze over. And it also goes with the silly little magical indulgences many see as normal. I bet you know your zodiac sign!

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So here I am, letting the world know, even if it’s not being shouted from the mountain tops, that I am finally accepting this truth of mine. I am actively trying to shake off any shame I may feel when I get into woo woo magical thinking.

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Modern Witches. A Study in Photos.

What makes a witch

Welcome to the very first instalment “Modern Witches”. Each month we’ll be visiting with a different witch to experience the vast array of beliefs, practices, and people who call themselves “witch”.

We think it’s crucial to be out of the broom closets and sharing ourselves with the world at large; if only to demystify/un-demonize who we are collectively.

This month we met with Erlinda, a beautiful & warm soul. Nurturing practically seeped out of her pores. But enough with this rambling, let’s see what she has to say about being a witch.

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Bubble & Brew: What does the word “witch” mean to you?

Erlinda: “A healer. A women who gets shit done. Takes care of herself, her children and her tribe. She tends to those who are in need. I also seen the most amazing IG image: W.I.T.C.H Woman In Total Control of Herself. At 35 that is ME!”

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Bubble & Brew: When did you openly share your witch status?

Erlinda: “As soon as it hit me witches were not evil and that I was actually one myself. Maybe about 6 months ago.”

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Bubble & Brew: How did you know you were a witch?

Erlinda: “I’ve always been a healer and lover. I knew I would be a wife and mother and I would forever be responsible for tending to the needs of those around me.”

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Bubble & Brew: What, in your experience, in the biggest misconception about witches as a whole?

Erlinda: “That we are evil. Society has taught us that strong and smart woman MUST be evil. 10 years ago I would never consider myself a witch nor would I associate myself with a woman who said she was a witch. The concept scared the good Catholic girl in me.”

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Bubble & Brew: What is your center, spiritually speaking?

Erlinda: “God. God is woman, man, life and death
> God lives in my core and when I sage my house or hold my crystals and stones I am praying to God for guidance and healing”

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Bubble & Brew: Use three words to describe yourself as a person.

Erlinda: Loving transparent chick!

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Thank you so much, Erlinda, for sharing with us this week!

We are so excited about this project, and we hope you are, too. If you’re a witch living in Southern California we’d love to talk with you.

Bright blessings!

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